Those beautiful rings, chosen with such anticipation and care, were exchanged on our wedding day. To us, they represented the promise of love that would last forever. To the world, the ring was a sign that we were “taken.”
So now what... It seems that of all the decisions about what to keep, and what to let go of, the question of the wedding ring is the most emotional. Removing the ring feels so wrong, but wearing it doesn’t feel right either.
We have some choices:
- Keep wearing the rings as we always have. There is nothing wrong with wearing the rings as long as they provide comfort.
- Put them in a safe. This just seems silly to me. But if you have removed them, and they’re sitting in a jewelry box, be sure to have them insured.
- Give them to our children or grandchildren. They are, after all, a continuation of our marriage.
- Redesign them and enjoy every day or on special occasions.
Here’s what I did:
The platinum from my engagement ring was melded into my son’s bride’s wedding band.
My diamond was joined by the birthstones of my children and made into a necklace.
My wedding ring acts as a frame around a tree. (We love trees) The disc in the back is engraved with words from our song.
My jeweler has offered to make 2 earrings from my husband’s wedding band.
If you have done something interesting with your wedding ring, please send in a photo, and we’ll post it here next month.